housekeeping

What really does work to increase the feeling
of having a home and its comforts is housekeeping.


When I first read this in Cheryl Mendelson’s book Home Comforts: The Art and Science of Keeping House, I wasn’t sure I liked it. I love coming home, making home, being at home. But cleaning my home?

I had been pondering this concept for a few days, when the following happened: While helping me clean the windows, I heard one of my girls say I love this place as she scrubbed happily away. I think for her, especially being in a new place she is supposed to call home, taking care of it with her own little hands gave her a sense of belonging.

A sense of home.

The man thinks so too, although he explains it differently. Yes, I am married to one of those men who enjoys cleaning. Attention: I did not say he cleans. I said he enjoys cleaning. He is usually too busy hunting in the wild and bringing home the bacon to actually clean. But he recently spent some time at home alone and when I returned, the house was fresh: floors swept, counters wiped, things stacked in general neatness.

I looked at him when I walked in the door and this is what he said: “It’s been good to clean this afternoon. I feel like I’ve spent some time with the house and I’m getting to know it a bit.” I was so touched by his sentiment that I didn’t have the heart to correct him. Her, I said under my breath…you are getting to know HER a bit. I hope she wasn’t offended.

What about you? Do you find that the act of cleaning your house gives you a greater sense of home and comfort? I know that most people would say a clean house does this for them, but what about the actual act of cleaning it?

fairy blogmother to the rescue!

Y’all are so awesome! Thanks for the communication on the blog crisis. My fairy blogmother fixed it up right. She just had a birthday and was on an internet vacation but managed to cheat just long enough to bibityblogityboo our blogs back to health.

Right now I am having the following conversation with one of my girls:

Her: Mommy, do I still cry when I get shots?
Me: I don’t know…
Her: But MOMmy, do I still cry when I get shots?
Me: No. No, you don’t cry because you’re a big girl.
Her: (half smiling, but still whining) MOMmy, I wanna get a shot right now. Can you go get shot stuff and give me a shot?
Me: I’m not allowed to give shots. Only nurses can give shots.

Pause. Pause.

Her: (still whining) MOMmy, when can you be a nurse?

I just can’t win. I will try to have a real post up later today. But I can’t promise anything, as I’m sure I’ll be busy explaining to my daughter why I can’t perform open heart surgery on her.

the next step: FABRIC

As promised, here is what we did with some of that fabric I bought last week. I am amazed by what that Nester can do with a hot glue gun and 5 uninterrupted minutes. Here is what our half bathroom looked like before we moved in.
Notice the custom made cornice board over this window. They were on nearly every window in the house.
And here it is today.
We haven’t changed the floor, the tiled wall or replaced the counter top and sink. I have begun to clean the grout on the floor in the far left corner, but I can only do it in small chunks. There is a lot of grout. We also haven’t gotten around to replacing the clam shell toilet seat, either. Though after seeing it in a photo, it has climbed several spaces on the priority list. But don’t you think it looks better already?
The fabric on the window was $5/yard and I had 4 yards of it. The ribbon was about $3 for the spool. The hot glue stick was about a penny. And The Nester, well…she works for 2 large pieces of chocolate cake. She did this window mistreatment in about the time it took me to walk upstairs, and take 1/2 a shower.
Here’s what I did with the leftover fabric. This one I actually did myself, though you and I both know where the idea came from.
See how hard that was? I already had that little tension rod and all I did was drape the fabric over it and fluff. Too bad our A/C vent is under that counter top. Who needs to be cool when you can be cute?

he’s home

This is a photo of the man saying goodbye to the wee ones at the airport. He has been out of the country for a week. Judging from yesterdays post, my mind went with him. I am happy to report that my sanity walked back into my arms in the form of a six foot two, dark eyed man. As fun as it is to stay up late and watch reruns of Friends and eat girl meals with no meat, it was starting to get old and fast.

Rest assured I will not be posting anymore photos of myself. Or Trinity. Back to serious stuff…like what we did with that cheap fabric. Stay tuned.

in which i waste time and think i’m funny

Most of you know about my sister, The Nester.
But you’ve never heard about my twin, Lilly Mae.
We’re the best of friends. Ever since we were little, we have loved singing together. She sings soprano and I’m an alto. For the most part, our lives are in sync just like our signing voices.
Still, sometimes we fight. She’s been jealous lately that big sister Nester has been spending time with me.
But we always work it out.
It is good for us to remember how great it is to have a twin.
One day maybe I’ll introduce you to our other sister. Her name is Trinity.
She doesn’t get out much.

me and my imaginary brides

Yesterday while driving alone, I passed the site where the man and I had our wedding reception. The grass had grown up around the sidewalks and the many windows were cloudy with dirt and disregard. I found myself wishing it weren’t up for lease. As I drove, I began to think about brides and weddings and the beginning of marriage.
I thought of all the brides and grooms who live in my town who will be getting married this weekend. I thought of all the families on their way, the luncheons, the rehearsals, the last minute dress alterations.

And then I thought of one bride. For one imaginary bride, I wished her day to be everything she dreamed it would be and some of what she didn’t. I wondered if she was giving herself permission to enjoy this week or if she was at her bridal breaking point. And then, I prayed for her photographer. Prayed. Out loud and without a second thought, I prayed for her photographer to be wise and smart and creative. I was alone in my car and that is what came out. I sort of looked at myself sideways. Are you kidding me?

She doesn’t even exist. I made her up. And then, I prayed for her pretend photographer. What about the bride herself? The groom, even? Or the marriage? Why not pray for like, the important stuff?

I could have done all that, I guess. But that’s not what came out. Though I don’t know her name or what she looks like, I do know that one day seven years from now, she will be like me. And a major part of her abilities to remember the day when she and her love became one will be from the photos.

The job of a photographer is to be the teller of a story that is vulnerable, colorful and true. I’m not a wedding photographer. I haven’t gone to school to be a photographer. But when I see a bride and groom on their wedding day, there is something inside me that feels compelled to capture it.

So even though I feel crazy praying for a photographer who I’m not sure even exists, I like to believe it makes a difference for someone. And I will probably check the Celebrations section in the Sunday paper to get a real life peek at one of my imaginary brides.

the most important ingredient

I forgot to mention in my last post the fuel behind all the creative work that has been going on at my house.
I’m not saying that stems and fabric can’t be arranged without the chocolate. I’m just saying why risk it?
Look how happy we are! And look how difficult it is for me to know where to look when taking a photo in a mirror.

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