Comments on: picket fences http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2009/11/19/picket-fences/ a place for your soul to breathe Fri, 10 Feb 2012 05:39:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: robin http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2009/11/19/picket-fences/#comment-30984 robin Wed, 25 Nov 2009 14:56:21 +0000 http://www.chattingatthesky.com/?p=4544#comment-30984 I love the post-incredibly thought provoking. As a military wife, I have been on both sides of the coin where I have tried to do it all myself and wound up spent. But I have also tried to ask for help READ BEG FOR HELP to find that those around me were uncomfortable with me being in that role and scattered like I had the plague. Then you find you MUST find new people who you then need to act like you need help so that it begins healthy and HOPEFULLY is there in your time of need I love the post-incredibly thought provoking. As a military wife, I have been on both sides of the coin where I have tried to do it all myself and wound up spent. But I have also tried to ask for help READ BEG FOR HELP to find that those around me were uncomfortable with me being in that role and scattered like I had the plague. Then you find you MUST find new people who you then need to act like you need help so that it begins healthy and HOPEFULLY is there in your time of need

]]> By: Heather http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2009/11/19/picket-fences/#comment-30938 Heather Tue, 24 Nov 2009 16:23:30 +0000 http://www.chattingatthesky.com/?p=4544#comment-30938 How beautifully you have taken truth and put it into words...Words that hit me between the eyes leaving me speechless while at the same time setting me free. Thank you. How beautifully you have taken truth and put it into words…Words that hit me between the eyes leaving me speechless while at the same time setting me free.

Thank you.

]]> By: o~girl http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2009/11/19/picket-fences/#comment-30875 o~girl Mon, 23 Nov 2009 19:46:38 +0000 http://www.chattingatthesky.com/?p=4544#comment-30875 ps...So many times I feel I must put out a personal disclaimer for my quirks or for me being "funky" because I think that will cause people to understand me better-and if they still seem as though they could cause hurt I do retreat. Way far away...deep inside. ps…So many times I feel I must put out a personal disclaimer for my quirks or for me being “funky” because I think that will cause people to understand me better-and if they still seem as though they could cause hurt I do retreat. Way far away…deep inside.

]]> By: o~girl http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2009/11/19/picket-fences/#comment-30873 o~girl Mon, 23 Nov 2009 19:41:20 +0000 http://www.chattingatthesky.com/?p=4544#comment-30873 Wow! Did this ever hit home...right in the heart. I keep thinking "I'm a 'good girl', why do people want to be mean & nasty to me? Why can't we just peacefully co-exist?" Thank you for the reminder that we must press inward and get *closer* for the healing. Great post! Wow! Did this ever hit home…right in the heart. I keep thinking “I’m a ‘good girl’, why do people want to be mean & nasty to me? Why can’t we just peacefully co-exist?” Thank you for the reminder that we must press inward and get *closer* for the healing.

Great post!

]]> By: adornedlife http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2009/11/19/picket-fences/#comment-30801 adornedlife Mon, 23 Nov 2009 03:43:18 +0000 http://www.chattingatthesky.com/?p=4544#comment-30801 this hits home...i was "touched" this week. someone willing to just show up and sit with me in the doctor's office, in the middle of flu season, no regard for herself. she came two weeks ago, too...in the front door and started cleaning my kitchen, my bathrooms. she saw all my junk. how blessed i am by her and by your words. this hits home…i was “touched” this week. someone willing to just show up and sit with me in the doctor’s office, in the middle of flu season, no regard for herself. she came two weeks ago, too…in the front door and started cleaning my kitchen, my bathrooms. she saw all my junk. how blessed i am by her and by your words.

]]> By: Heather http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2009/11/19/picket-fences/#comment-30788 Heather Sun, 22 Nov 2009 19:17:14 +0000 http://www.chattingatthesky.com/?p=4544#comment-30788 Wow, I love this! I just came across your blog today. What a great place to peruse. Thanks for your honesty. Heather Wow, I love this! I just came across your blog today. What a great place to peruse. Thanks for your honesty.
Heather

]]> By: Heather of the EO http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2009/11/19/picket-fences/#comment-30782 Heather of the EO Sun, 22 Nov 2009 13:47:38 +0000 http://www.chattingatthesky.com/?p=4544#comment-30782 I've been thinking so much about transparency lately. About how when we aren't seen, really seen, all of us...we do that comparing thing and the funk intensifies because it's lonely. I'm so thankful for my friends, the ones who have seen the truest version of me and still come around and love me. But I even pull away from them when I'm not doing well in any way...it's like I'm afraid it will confirm that I'm bad, even though I'm a good girl at heart. Now I'm rambling. Thank you for this post. I’ve been thinking so much about transparency lately. About how when we aren’t seen, really seen, all of us…we do that comparing thing and the funk intensifies because it’s lonely. I’m so thankful for my friends, the ones who have seen the truest version of me and still come around and love me. But I even pull away from them when I’m not doing well in any way…it’s like I’m afraid it will confirm that I’m bad, even though I’m a good girl at heart.

Now I’m rambling. Thank you for this post.

]]> By: Sandy Toes http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2009/11/19/picket-fences/#comment-30773 Sandy Toes Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:03:28 +0000 http://www.chattingatthesky.com/?p=4544#comment-30773 So true...sometimes it is almost "hurtful" when people think you have it all together but inside you just want to "scream" out I don't! sandy toe So true…sometimes it is almost “hurtful” when people think you have it all together but inside you just want to “scream” out I don’t!
sandy toe

]]> By: Pepper http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2009/11/19/picket-fences/#comment-30732 Pepper Sat, 21 Nov 2009 05:52:42 +0000 http://www.chattingatthesky.com/?p=4544#comment-30732 I have been trying to deal with this in my life this year, I feel like God has put some things in my life this year to show me that the masks need to come down. And maybe that's why I'm blogging more, too. I have always dealt with depression in my life, but I have hidden it well. I can put a smile on my face no matter what. Most people don't even know I deal with depression, most don't know how severely it truly effects my life. A silly example of this is when I have called in sick at work. I can't let myself even sound sick. When I talk to someone on the phone I put on the mask and sound perfectly fine no matter how ill I am. This fall I had a huge blow to my life. My husband confessed a sin that has been hiding behind our doors for years to our family to our friends. It was such a burden lifted off me. But then I had to learn that when people ask how things are to be honest. Now my mother is deathly ill and I feel like I have put myself into a new mask. People ask how she is doing but I don't know if they are really interested so sometimes I say one word sometimes I give them the whole update but feel like I'm numb as I do. I fight these masks but I can't seem to remove them. I want someone to care, I want someone to call me and ask how I am, but what will be my answer, I'm not sure. I feel like I'm whining if I tell the truth, but I need someone to be my support. Sorry this is long, this has been on my heart and you opened a flood gate. I have been trying to deal with this in my life this year, I feel like God has put some things in my life this year to show me that the masks need to come down. And maybe that’s why I’m blogging more, too.

I have always dealt with depression in my life, but I have hidden it well. I can put a smile on my face no matter what. Most people don’t even know I deal with depression, most don’t know how severely it truly effects my life.

A silly example of this is when I have called in sick at work. I can’t let myself even sound sick. When I talk to someone on the phone I put on the mask and sound perfectly fine no matter how ill I am.

This fall I had a huge blow to my life. My husband confessed a sin that has been hiding behind our doors for years to our family to our friends. It was such a burden lifted off me. But then I had to learn that when people ask how things are to be honest.

Now my mother is deathly ill and I feel like I have put myself into a new mask. People ask how she is doing but I don’t know if they are really interested so sometimes I say one word sometimes I give them the whole update but feel like I’m numb as I do.

I fight these masks but I can’t seem to remove them. I want someone to care, I want someone to call me and ask how I am, but what will be my answer, I’m not sure. I feel like I’m whining if I tell the truth, but I need someone to be my support.

Sorry this is long, this has been on my heart and you opened a flood gate.

]]> By: Marilee http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2009/11/19/picket-fences/#comment-30724 Marilee Sat, 21 Nov 2009 01:23:27 +0000 http://www.chattingatthesky.com/?p=4544#comment-30724 Very, very true. I can relate to this so much! Very, very true.
I can relate to this so much!

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