For the next eight Thursdays, I will be walking through Grace for the Good Girl more in-depth than I’ve done here before. If you haven’t signed up yet, you can do so here for free. Be sure to check the Book Club box. Every Thursday through June and July we’ll meet here to talk about what we’ve read. We’ll also have a closed Facebook group – I’ll tell you more about that at the end of the post.
This is an epic experiment for me. Seriously, you do not know how outside of my comfort zone this is. Hey y’all! Let me hijack my own blog for the better part of the summer and talk about me and my big self and my big book! I know that’s not really what it’s like. Let’s face it, I wrote the book so people would read it. If I can get out of my own head long enough, I remember this book has been used to change people’s lives. I have the emails to prove it. So I’m just going to ignore myself and carry on.
why the term good girl?
Since the first shadow of this book began to make its way across my heart in 2008, I have struggled with using the term good girl. The first problem with the term is that we aren’t girls, we’re women. But what many people don’t know is that this book was intended for high school girls to start with.
When I wrote the proposal, I used the term good girl freely, referring to teenagers. Even though it brought on a semi-resentful laugh from the high school girls I shared it with, they all agreed that it was the best term for the struggle.
When the proposal went to pub board, the editors at Revell (the publishing house who ended up buying my book) asked if I would be willing to write two books for them, first for adult women then later, for teen girls. They really believed this concept would resonate deeply among Christian women and they were right. So that’s what I did, but by the time I finally began to craft the book for adults, I was so deeply entrenched into the concept of the good girl that it stuck.
I couldn’t let it go.
I think the reason why it stuck is because for most of us, this struggle with our own desperate attempts at being good started when we were just girls. And that imaginary girl we always wished we were but could never quite live up to? Well, she kind of never went away.
The second problem with the term is this: good means something positive, right? I have always worried that people would think I was encouraging women to become the good girl, that the title would imply being the good girl was the goal. And the opposite is actually true. Not that I want to encourage women to become bad, rather I wanted to expose the underlying assumption a lot of us have about being Christians and being good.
When the book title was released, I received emails from a few women saying things like “I can’t wait to read your book to learn how to be more of a good girl.” And I died a little on the inside, right after my head exploded. Because that is exactly the opposite of my point.
So what do I mean by a good girl anyway? Obviously, I wrote a whole book to explain that. But before you read the whole book, for those who may not have seen this yet, here are six of my friends to tell you. In four minutes and forty-one seconds, they paint a pretty accurate picture of who the good girl is and their own personal struggles with her. (If you haven’t yet seen this video but are planning to join us for the book club, I highly encourage you to watch.)
It’s true, my name is Emily P. Freeman, and I’m a good girl. But that’s only half the story. Left to my own resources, the try-hard life is my default. But I’m not left to my own resources. And neither are you.
We won’t start our discussion of Chapters 1 – 3 until next week. For now, I just want to say welcome. When I get brave, I may post a video instead of a word post on one of these Thursdays. But I’m not brave yet, so there you go.
what to do next
Read a sample: Not sure you want to commit? You can read the first chapter of the book online right now to test it out.
Get the book: You can find it almost anywhere books are sold as well as some libraries, but if you don’t mind my saying, Barnes & Noble’s website makes it look the prettiest. Thank you B&N for having a clean website. (You can also go into an actual Barnes & Noble to find it. It looks pretty there, too).
Request to join the closed Facebook Group: It’s a closed group not to keep you out, but simply to honor many of you requesting we do it that way. Request to join and Jamie will approve you. If you aren’t on Facebook, no worries. You can put your comments right here on the blog and we’ll try to have some discussion that way. Loosely organized. Thank you for grace.
Find a friend or 8: The great thing about doing this on the blog is for those of you who don’t have a buddy to read with, there will be at least 500 buddies here online you can talk to. But if you have been wanting to grab your bestie and read something together, do it. She doesn’t have to sign up or be formal about it. You could even host your own discussion at the Starbucks that goes along with our schedule here. There is no wrong.
Write down the schedule: We will follow the chapter separations that are in the small group leader guide at the back of the book. The following dates are the posting dates of those chapters. For example, by June 7th you will have already finished chapters 1 – 3.
June 7 :: Chapters 1 – 3
June 14 :: Chapters 4 – 6
June 21 :: Chapters 7 – 9
June 28 :: Chapter 10
July 5 :: Chapters 11 – 12
July 12 :: Chapters 13 – 14
July 19 :: Chapters 15 – 16
July 26 :: Chapters 17 – 18
I’ve probably missed something. I’m not super logistical. But here we are, moving ahead anyway. I know many of you area already regular readers of Chatting at the Sky. Still, if you plan to join us, I would love to have you introduce yourself in the comments – what city, state, or country are you reading from? What are you hoping for in this time we’ll have together? I can’t wait to get started.
Funny how we all read words differently. When I first heard of your book, I immediately felt relief, like, “Wow, someone gets me. Someone gets what it’s like to try so hard all the time.” Thanks for writing, Emily.
You’re welcome, Meredith. I think the subtitle helps clear things up a lot.
I just read the first chapter of GRACE FOR THE GOOD GIRL and I am reading from Pulaski, TN. Hiding behind the “mask” of being good, I have realized has kept me from using the talents that God gave me for fear that I would find out that I wasn’t really good enough. I had not thought about the fact that it might also be the barrier between myself and a true walk with Christ. I love this phrase from your book, “While I thought I was searching for Him, he graciously, miraculously and intentionally found me.” I look forward to reading more and sharing your book with some other “good girls” I know. : )
Good morning! My name is Lisa and I am reading from Columbus, Ohio. I’ve already read the book once but I’m looking forward to reading again in the book club format. I usually get some much more out books when there’s room for discussion and feedbook. I don’t typically classify myself as a good girl, but I know there are definitely parts in my life that I’m performing or trying to be “perfect” to gain approval from other people and even God. I’m hoping to explore deeply this need for control this summer and learn to let it go and let Him be in the driver’s seat.
Welcome, Lisa! Glad you’ll be joining us. I tend to like to read on my own, but am always surprised when I discuss with others what they’ve read how they notice things I never would have thought of. Look forward to getting started!
I’m Julie, and I’m a good girl… reading from Clarks Summit, PA. I bought the book a few months ago, but still haven’t started reading it… Thanks for the push!
Julie Anne´s last [type] ..preparing for fast
Great timing then! Welcome, Julie Anne.
Wow Julie Anne…small world! I just left a comment below about being from Alabama, but spending the summer in PA. I’m just up the road in Tunkhannock! It was neat to actually recognize a city name in PA.
Tracey Padgett´s last [type] ..Think About it Thursday
Hi ladies, – girls – I should say!
Lisa from the last comment makes me miss my home state, in fact I was born in Columbus. Anyhoo, recently transplanted to Michigan with hubby and 4 kids.
I’m excited for this because I’ve been wanting to read Emily’s book, but also need a book club with actual talking about the book!! Um, yeah, my current club is is a little on the quiet side and I get tired of hearing myself talk about my own perspectives! hee hee
Thanks for doing this Emily…
~ Kerry
Kerry @ Made For Real´s last [type] ..Faith in a box
I get tired of hearing myself talk too, Kerry. Totally know how that feels. Hopefully you and I won’t be the only ones talking around here!
Hello! My name is Sarah and I will be joining in from Mission, KS (a suburb of Kansas City). I have wanted to read this book for awhile now as I completely identify with the premise. I’m excited to participate and hope to be able to join in on a regular basis this summer. Looking forward to learning to lose myself in God’s grace as I surrender control, my pleaser mentality and the unrealistic expectations I set for myself. Can’t wait! Thank you, Emily for writing and for providing this format.
You’re welcome, Sarah. It’s my pleasure – thank you for joining us!
Looking forward to getting to know everyone. I’m Charissa and I totally fit the mold of the good girl. The try hard life is my default as well, but thanks to the grace of God I’m learning to rely on Him and not my own resources. I’m reading from North Alabama.
Charissa @ {Mimi’s Babies Props}´s last [type] ..Baby Barefoot Sandal – Flower Blooms – Red, White, and Blue – USA – Patriotic – Baby Girl Sandals by MimisBabiesProps
Welcome, Charissa. I’ve only been to Alabama once – I really liked it there. So glad you’re joining us.
My name is Marcia, and I am reading along in Grand Rapids, Michigan. I just finished reading the book and then saw the information about a summer book club to discuss it, so the timing is perfect! Much of the book resonated with me, so I am eager to unpack it a little further, and learn alongside other women as well. Looking forward to it!
Ah, Michigan. I lived in Farmington Hills near Detroit for my senior year of high school. That’s where a lot of my good girl-ness really solidified, unfortunately. Still, I have great memories from Michigan. Only lived there one year, but looking back it seems like longer. Welcome, Marcia!
I was just scrolling down these comments, about to add my own, when I saw Marcia had mentioned Grand Rapids (where I currently live). Emily, I can’t believe you lived in Farmington Hills your senior year! That’s where I’m from!
I’ll be reading from between the two places – I just graduated from college and am in limbo for the next few months.
annie´s last [type] ..she saw what?
hello! my name is elora nicole and i’m reading from austin, texas. i bought the book in the fall and just haven’t gotten to it yet – which is providential, i’m sure. i’m so excited about reading it!
eloranicole´s last [type] ..of girlfriends and zombies
Hi Elora Nicole! So glad you’re here – my parents lived in Austin for a while when I was in college. What a great city. I hope the book club can help you get into the book this summer. Welcome!
Good Morning, My name is Mary. I live in South Carolina. I had the wonderful opportunity to briefly meet Emily several years ago at She Speaks over lunch. A dear friend of mine who knows her bought the book for me. I can’t wait to finally have a chance to sit down and read Grace for the Good Girl. Its going to be a wonderful summer
!
Mary@The Calm of His Presence´s last [type] ..An Invitation to Revival
Hi (again) Mary! So glad you’ll be joining us. And now I have to ask – who is the good friend of yours I know?
My name is DeAnne. . .and I am a good girl! The title of this book grabbed me the fist time I saw it on Anne V. Blog about books she was reading. I ordered it right away and from the moment I read the first chapter I felt that Emily was in my living room telling me about myself. . . things I would never admit!
I’ve since lead a group of my favorite “good girls” through the study this spring, it was life changing for me and many of them as well.
I have recently moved from Puyallup,WA to Nashville, TN (right after the study ended) My first ever move from family, church, and dear friends.
As I embark on this new adventure, I need to be reminded to walk out of my “good girl” patterns and not fall back into “mask wearing” as I build new friendships!
That is why I would love to join this on line study!
Thanks for your transparency Emily, I feel you are a kindred spirit, though we have never met!
So glad you’re here, DeAnne. What a great opportunity you have to start over, in a way. And in Nashville! If I didn’t live in NC, I think I would love to live in Nashville. I hope you quickly find a community of friends there. And welcome!
Hi DeAnne, Welcome to Nashville!
I am a Nashville native looking to build a community of friends in the area after being inspired by (in)courage. I would love to form a local small group to talk about Grace For the Good Girl. Let me know if you are interested
Hi everyone! My name is Kasey and I’m reading from Burlington, NJ. I started the book the same week Emily made the announcement about the book club and now I’m waiting to read with the group. I have to admit I’m a little shy about owning up to how much of this text I’m identifying with – I never realized how much energy I spend on my good girl image every.single.day.
Can’t wait to meet you lovely ladies
Kasey M.´s last [type] ..Admit who you are.
Looking forward to reading through it again!
Hoping I can keep up with the schedule.
With it being summer I think I may actually attain that goal.
I am reading from Maryland, north of Baltimore.
Sharon @ Hiking Toward Home´s last [type] ..Jesus, Simon Peter, and Thomas the Tank Engine
I’m val and I’m from a very small town in Ohio. Near amish country:) I’ve read through the book once just recently and felt God speak right to my heart and gracefully quiet the good girl inside. Emily you have been so very blessed as an author and I’m thankful for all your honesty. I’m also a youth sponsor and really looking forward to the youth version you’ve written.
My name is Jenny and I am reading from Raleigh, NC! I am half way through the book, and am so starting
over! Excited to read with you all!
Hi Jenny, I’m in Raleigh too!
Rachel´s last [type] ..Let us not become weary
Emily,
I have watched that video so many times and I cry each time because no one else has spoken out loud so close to what my heart cries. I could never explain myself why I am the way I am. I have enjoyed your book and your words on your blog so very much. I have signed up for your book club and am praying about which girls/ladies to ask to join me. I’m struggling because my husband is a youth pastor as well and there are some girls that I really think would soak in this word. However, I feel I’m still learning from the book and could use this time with of the adult leaders and myself.
Thanks again,
Lisa
Beaufort, SC
I was floored when I downloaded and read the first chapter of this book. And this video… wow. Melissa said, “How can I stop? How can I stop striving or how can I be still without everything falling apart?” That is just so where I have been for many, many years – I wanted to reach out to her and say, “Me too! Me too, sister.” I am really looking forward to this study and this conversation. I’ll be reading and blogging from San Antonio TX.
Francesca´s last [type] ..Altogether Lovely
My name is Julia and I’m reading from Danville, IL (but I’m really still a Hoosier girl at heart having grown up in Indiana until I “married” into Illinois!) I’ve had the book since April and am just now starting on Chapter 11. I am reading S-L-O-W b/c I am realizing things about myself for the first time and honestly I am a little overwhelmed. I am really looking forward to joining in with other good girls as we step out from behind our masks and open our hearts to the grace that God has for us!
Hi, I am Holly, and I will be reading in Massachusetts. I am looking forward to reading the book and to getting your second book for my two daughters, one who is finishing up her freshman year in high school, one who is two years younger. I think others have always seen me as a “good girl”, though I know myself better…I am hoping to learn to fall deeper into this Grace…
Thank you for sharing with us!
Yea!
Kristin from…. Tennessee! Well, for the first half. I’m in the Smokies on a summer mission trip with college students.
I’ll be back in Apex, NC for the second half.
Emily’s book had a huge impact on me when I read it the first time this fall and I’m excited to read again and talk through with others. I think my friends got tired of me talking about it when I was reading it so I’m glad to have a community that understands.
First, I love what you said here: “If I can get out of my own head long enough, I remember this book has been used to change people’s lives. I have the emails to prove it. So I’m just going to ignore myself and carry on.”
There’s whole lot in those two sentences.
I’m in Kentucky and I’ve not read the book yet and have been wanting too. I will be buying on my Kindle no later than tomorrow.
Thanks for ignoring yourself enough to do this with us.
Eyvonne´s last [type] ..How to really be right
Hi I am Esther. I am reading from beautiful Cary, NC. I cried watching the viedo. I read chapter one already. Can’t wait to read more. Thank You this going to be a great adventure.
Hi, I am Noella. Where am I from? That question always gets me. I am a missionary in Italy, orginally from California, married a man from Michigan and lived in Ohio before venturing overseas. This summer I will be reading from all over the US as we travel on furlough. I read Emily’s book at the beginning of the year and was immensely challenged through it. I am looking forward to the conversation and interaction with a group of women that I don’t have the luxury of having in a physical format at this time. Hopefully I can keep up admist an intense summer travel schedule!
Hi Ladies! I’m Jamie and I’m joining in from Washington state. Excited to be a part!
Jamie @ Six Bricks High´s last [type] ..The Summer of 7
I’m reading along with all of you from Bakersfield CA
this summer and I’m excited to hear what God speaks to us all through it!
Thanks Emily for your words!
Hello! My name is Linda, and I’m a Good Girl.
Hoping to join in your study. I plan to pick up my copy at a nearby B&N tomorrow.
Blessings to you good girls out there!
hsmominmo´s last [type] ..A Short Break
I’m reading along in Dallas, TX. I’m just hoping to be encouraged. I really struggle with letting God’s grace reach into my good girl tendencies. Well, they are more than tendencies. It’s more a good girl lifestyle.
Anna´s last [type] ..Homemade Pantry: Mustard
I’m Renee from South Carolina, near the neck of the woods where you once lived. When this book arrived at my home right after it was published I took my time about reading it. But after a few chapters I had to put it down, take it in, let it rest, then pick it back up again. It’s that good and that convicting. I’m so grateful you’ll be giving your insights as we read. I’m looking forward to this.
Southern Gal´s last [type] ..Wordless Wednesday
Hi, I’m Shelley from Michigan. Emily’s book really struck a chord. I cried every time I watched the promo video or listened to her describe it. Though I read it when it first was released, I’ve always wanted to read it with someone, to really dig in and attack that thinking that invades practically my every thought. I want to fall into the freedom of resting in his love for me, and letting go of the approval of others.
shelley.´s last [type] ..The Book Diaries
Emily, I am so excited to share your book with you and with all the “good girls” out there. I read the first chapter and thought I was hearing an echo of the lesson the Lord taught Sunday morning to our life community called “A Place for Women.” It was the last in a series called “The Holy Spirit and You” and He spoke much of what you share in Chapter 1. He’s got our number and He’s passionate to teach truth to erase the lies we’ve believed for so long. I can’t wait for the blackboards of our minds to be erased. I pray we exchange our grades for the grace He desires to give us. This white-haired lady is waiting expectantly for the sound of chains to fall off as He sets us captives free.
Denise
Hi Emily and other sisters in Christ,
Thanks so much Emily for stepping out of your comfort zone and doing this
Thursday “thing”. I’m reading from PA. I have 3 daughters ; ages 21, 19 , 16…..
and we are all good girls just aching for more and more Grace to set us free!
I have not read your book….can;t wait : )
Good Morning! My name is Karen and I’m joining in from Colorado. I am so excited to jump into this book – this book club is exactly what I need this summer. I’m hoping to find some grace for my ‘good girl’ life and hopefully some tools to pass on to my 9 year old daughter. Thank you for stepping outside of your comfort zone Emily:))
Hi! I realize this is somewhat off-topic however I needed to ask. Does managing a well-established website like yours require a lot of work? I am completely new to writing a blog but I do write in my journal on a daily basis. I’d like to start a blog so I can share my own experience and views online. Please let me know if you have any kind of recommendations or tips for new aspiring bloggers. Appreciate it!
Tanya´s last [type] ..sleep hypnosis
Well, the video made me cry and I didn’t think I was a good girl so perhaps I am. I started reading your book awhile ago and I asked my 16 year old daughter to read it with me this summer and she said she would like to. I loved seeing the teen on the video because I wasn’t sure if I should wait for your next book for her. Anyway, she will be gone on a mission outreach to Jamaica during part of June but I am praying this will be a tranformational time for both of us. We live in Pawleys, Island, SC just a hop, skip and jump away from you Emily.
Shelly Miller´s last [type] ..When Summer is a Heart Condition
Have her read it with you!
I’m 19 and read it last year while in college, and then ended up in a sorority small group where we read it again together. It’s a great book and really really resonated with me as a teen, so I bet she’ll love it and be challenged by it, too. And I’ve been on 2 mission trips to Jamaica – please let me know how she loves it….I’m sure she will 
OneGirl´s last [type] ..I Need To Know
Tomorrow I will be 52. I just read the first part of your book, and I am floored. You tell what I have been feeling for years.
I am heading out today to see if my local Christian bookstore has the book.
Thank you!
Hi I’m Lauren. I am reading from northwest Florida. I have been wanting to read the book for a while now, but haven’t gotten around to it. As soon as I heard about this book club, I knew I needed to pick it up and start reading. Thank you for providing this opportunity! I’m hoping to find freedom and grace from God in this time. I can definitely identify with the good girl, and as I’m heading off to college in the fall, I think grace will be a good foundation to build off of. Can’t wait!
Hi, I’m Terri in Rockford, Illinois. When I first heard about this book I persuaded my church’s resource center to stock it. The bad news is, I think I’m the only one who bought a copy!
I’m 50 and actually in the last couple years my “try-hard” has petered out. Not that I’m “bad” now, I just have lost the motivation to “try”… I’m no longer on time for everything like I used to be, for instance. I think it’s because the good-girl try-hard motivation comes from the wrong place and can only exhaust you in the end. I’m hoping the Lord uses this to shift the motivation to Him.
I’m Jeanette, joining you from Nashville. I’ve read the book once, and felt like Emily was speaking directly to me. I wished I had someone to discuss my thoughts & emotions with as I struggled through the idea of removing my mask. I’m excited to read it again and have the opportunity to take the journey with other women!
Hello Jeanette! I live in Nashville and have thought about forming a small group to meet and discuss this book. I’ve been seeking community since participating in the (in)courage (in)RL meetup in April. Let me know if you are interested in meeting sometime for coffee or something
Tonya´s last [type] ..Quotes this week
Howdy! My name is Tiffany. I’ve been reading the book from Budapest, Hungary, but I’ll soon be going back home to Texas. I’m about halfway through it right now and I’m loving it! Looking forward to having some ladies to talk about it with!
Thanks, Emily, for being open to God’s work through you.
Tiffany´s last [type] ..reasons why I love my job
Hello, my name is Jessica and I am a good girl! I am from Virginia Beach, Virginia originally but am now living in Co. Tyrone, Northern Ireland. I have told a few girlfriends about your book and hope they will pick it up, too! I am really looking forward to some discussion on it. I have gotten through the first half and so much of it has already resonated with me. Thanks for putting your voice out there, Emily!
hi! My name is Beth and I live near Charleston, SC. I have read and reread your book, Emily. I’ve written in it, underlined parts, marked certain pages….there’s so much in there. I’m looking forward to reading it again and will try to participate in the online discussions. I am such a classic introvert (haved loved your thoughts and insights about introverts!) that I don’t always enjoy group studies. I’m hoping this set up will be easier for me.
Thanks for being willing to “step out there” and let the Lord use you in such a powerful way!
Blessings!
Hi. I am Glenda from Chicago.
I had my husband read the intro to Grace for the Good Girl. He came out of his office laughing (at least he wasn’t crying) and said, “This describes you to a t.”
Looking forward to reading it again and learning together.
Thanks for hosting, Emily. (Hey we like you, so don’t stress out too much.)
Fondly,
Glenda
Glenda Childers´s last [type] ..I heart Annie Sloan Chalk Paint
Hello all! I’m in North Carolina and a fellow good girl and I read though the book together this spring. It was perfect timing for me as God had recently been showing me the error of my good girl ways and placing it on my heart to be the genuine woman he created me to be instead of trying to juggle ten different people-pleasing versions of myself.
Rachel´s last [type] ..Let us not become weary
I’m Kim, and I’m from Virginia. I’m so excited about this book club, and I’m hoping to lead a small group at my church with this book in the fall. I’m really praying that this stuff will sink into my heart! I really want to be free! Thanks, Emily, for all you’ve done!
i’m amber, 25, from oklahoma.
this is my first time being apart of a book club, and i am SO excited!
during this time, i am looking forward to what God will show me in the weeks to come. His grace is sufficient for me!
amber´s last [type] ..exciting announcement!
Come at ya from northwest Ohio. I, too, have read it and am so looking forward to this. Thanks for offering this to us.
THANK YOU! I’m Amanda, reading from Fort Benning, GA (HOOAH!). I just read this a few months back {it took me a long time to soak it all in}, and I am thrilled to go through it again with a community
We are smack-dab in the middle of adopting twin one year old boys, and my oh my do I need to let go of the try hard life and let GRACE WIN. DAILY!
Thanks for stepping out of your comfort zone, Emily.
Hi, I’m Tracey, SAHM of 3, from Alabama, spending the summer in Pennsylvania, adjusting to the culture shock.
I’m so glad you decided to start this book club. I started reading your book soon after it came out. After a few chapters and some sore toes I put it down and haven’t picked it back up. This is my prompting from God to forge ahead and finish it. I know there’s a blessing waiting for me at the end of the hard parts.
Tracey Padgett´s last [type] ..Think About it Thursday
Hi! I’m Jennifer, and I’m in a little town called Oxford, Alabama. I picked up your book on a whim last fall, and I’m so glad I did. (I almost didn’t, because in the past I’ve had a tendency to buy a whole lot of “self help” books that didn’t really help–good girl all the way!–and my husband had asked me not to buy any more for a while. I consider this the opposite of a self help book, though, which is why it’s so freeing to me.) I’ve read the book, but I haven’t really digested it, so I’m really excited to have the opportunity to do so with some other good girls. Thank you for doing this.
p.s.
somehow I missed that video until today. loved it, through tears.
Hi Emily,
Just wrapping up the last chapters of your book with my group of nine and we love it. It has been so eye opening and heart changing. Please know that the BMC’s from Salem OR are loving you and feel so blessed to have had the Lord bring you into our lives. A couple of us will go through the book with you again this summer….I’m sure new things to be revealed!
Do not be embarrassed to show us your light…God gave you this gift for a reason! He knew that your words would speak to many. We feel like we know you and welcome the insight God has given you to share with us.
Hi emily!
I am jimmie lee and I will be joining in from Pittsburgh, Pa
I am fairly new to Chatting at the Sky and I have had Grace for the Good girl on the back of mind. I can’t remember what blog I heard about it on but since I have heard about it, it’s been on my mental list
Thanks for the opportunity to join in.
I’ll be honest I feel like I am taking on too much this summer in terms of diving into reading but I can’t wait to dive into this book
I hope to get a fresh perspective from reading this book and engaging with others.
jimmie lee´s last [type] ..Weekday Musings
Hi. I’m Linda and I’m reading from New Braunfels, TX. I’ve read the book Emily – twice! It has ministered to me in so many ways. I’m looking forward to the discussion.
Linda´s last [type] ..Evil
I’m Libby and I’m a good girl. I am in Lincoln, Nebraska. A friend of mine sent me Grace for the Good Girl this past winter and I finally started reading it but haven’t got very far. Since InRL Emily, I’ve been following your blog and tweets and when you said “is anyone interested in reading this together and talking about it?” I fairly shouted Yes!
I am looking forward to reading the book this summer and getting to interact with you and other good girls about it. From the first chapter I have felt you were writing my life with just a few details changed so, yes, when I read the title I knew what you were talking about. Again, thank you for doing this! You are doing just fine and I am sure it will be great!
Hi! I’m in Tallahassee, Florida and I’m really looking forward to his study together! You’ve done an amazing job, Emily, thanks for inviting us along
Hi Emily! I am from Bon Aqua, TN. I have already read the book (twice, actually) and it has changed my life. I came at a perfect time for me. Blessings to you. Looking forward to the book club and discussion.
Emily…WOW! I heard you today on Haven Today…truly a divine appointment…I am getting your book and joining your book club…I live in Lakeland, Florida…and I look forward to your study to rest in God’s grace, love the Scripture reference Charles Morris quoted on Haven Today this morning Romans 10:1-4 from J.B. Phillips New Testament–My brothers, from the bottom of my heart I long and pray to God that Israel may be saved! I know from experience what a passion for God they have, but alas, it is not a passion based on knowledge. They do not know God’s righteousness, and all the time they are going about trying to prove their own righteousness they have the wrong attitude to receive his. For Christ means the end of the struggle for righteousness-by-the-Law for everyone who believes in him…love that phrase…”For Christ means the end of the struggle for righteousness…”
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Hi, I’m in Coeur d’Alene, ID. Reading the book for the second time. I LOVED it so much the first time and can’t wait to get started again! I’ve never had a book speak to me quite so personally and completely before. And unlike some other books I’ve read, his one actually left me with great hope for change in my life. I’m personally going through a time of God teaching me to surrendered control of my life to Him. I know this second reading will help me with that journey.
Thank you so much, Emily for stepping out and leading this book club. I will be praying for you and all the ladies as we walk through it together!
Hi! I’m Alecia I’ll be joining from Cedar Falls Iowa {we recently moved from N Alabama}. I’ll be picking up the book tomorrow, and I’ve been wanting to read it since I heard about it.
Always the ‘good girl’ that tends to get complacent on her own, and am constantly reminded of my need for a Savior. When you think good girl, you mistakenly assume they have no worries or problems, that life is good. I have been known to do such a good job at hiding my heart that people would mistakenly think I was snobby. I had perfected the art of mask wearing,but if they could look past the smile, they would know the fears, worries, and insecurities that plague me.
I’m really looking forward to what God is going to show me through this study!
Alecia´s last [type] ..Say His Name
Good Morning Emily! I have been wanting to buy your book for awhile now and am so excited you are going to do a book discussion/club for the book! I will be ordering it this morning. I am a native Montanan currently living in Helena, Montana. When I read the excerpt about your book, I felt like I was hit by lightening because it was exactly how I would describe myself. I think that there is a lot of fear behind it and I’m looking forward to your insights and what God and scripture have to say about it.
Hi, I’m Melinda from Tuscaloosa, Alabama. I read the book last year and learned so much. I started reading it again a few weeks and am amazed at the new things I’m learning. I’m so excited about this group!
I am Amanda – currently living in Springfield, MO. I bought this book just a few days before you announced that you were going to do a summer study on it – so I slowed down on reading it. Looking forward to growing and learning from the study and other “good girls.”
Amanda @wandering´s last [type] ..as my three-pound preemie turns three years old
My name is Hannah and I’m reading from…well, all over the place. My husband and I are starting a cross-country turned Europe adventure Sunday that will last the entire summer! I thought this book club would be a great way to read a new book while adding a little consistency into my soon-to-be very spontaneous life.
Hannah McKay´s last [type] ..so long twenty-seven
I’m Emily also and I will be reading from Greensboro, NC. I’ve never been apart of a book club and am very excited! I have the book and can’t wait to start reading it. Thanks for doing this, Emily.
Hello!
My name is Shelly and I am reading from South Carolina. I read through your book last year, and I think I may have cried through the entire book. I am excited to do so with all these women.
Shelly´s last [type] ..The Real Me
I’m Hannah from Tallahassee, FL. I’m so excited to share this time with all of you! I’ve read a couple chapters and its already changed me so much. I can’t wait to really dig in and learn from everyone else’s story.
Hannah @ honestly here´s last [type] ..jumbled
Hi.Hanna I like your friendship for share some stories. Do you like this?
Hi there! I’m reading from Ontario, Canada. Just got the book and am looking forward to reading along this summer. Hopefully I can keep up!
Hi gals – My name is Jennie, and I live in Euharlee, GA. You’ve probably never heard of it. It is a small, country community about 20 minutes NW of Cartersville, GA, which is about an hour from Atlanta. It’s funny how God works. I stumbled upon this website through twitter last summer. One of the people I follow had linked to a post Emily wrote. I loved her writing and began keeping up with the blog. Emily, not too soon after that, you posted the video and introduced the book that would be coming out in September I believe it was. I watched the video, and by the end of it, I was balling my eyes out. The video was spot on. It was me, and I thought my way of living the good girl life was normal, the way I was supposed to live. I immediately put the book on my Christmas wish list, and my sister got it for me for Christmas. I’ve read through the book once and decided when I was reading it that I wanted to read it through a second time. There was too much that I related with, and I was afraid I wouldn’t catch it all. I’m excited to be reading it through again, and I look forward to discussing it with others. I have found freedom through this book. I’m still fighting for it, but the enemy no longer has me convinced by his lies. He has been exposed. Thank you, Emily. Thank you for being obedient, and thank you for helping teach me to let go of the try-hard life. Blessings to all ~ Jennie
Jeannie…I know where Euharlee is
I am a GA girl and small town girl myself. I live in Talking Rock.
Awesome! Not too many people know where it is
Looking forward to reading with you.
Cheri from Vancouver, Washington. Yes, we really exist and have nothing to do with Vancouver, BC – lol. I read the book when it first came out and I know reading it again will be beneficial
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Hi, I’m Cathy from beautiful British Columbia up here is Canada.
‘Grace for the good girl’ was such a blessing! I wrote some of my thoughts on my blog and it’s been one of my most popular posts!
I’m looking forward to following your Thursday posts on the book. Writing down the schedule now… : )
Cathy´s last [type] ..Handle with Prayer
Hello, I’m Tricia! My sister and I, along with a couple of “good girl” friends starting reading the book when it first came out, and we would get together to discuss it… over the last couple of months though, we have not been able to arrange times to get together. We just recently decided we would start meeting again, so this online book club came at the perfect time, as we meet on Thursday’s after work! We all live in Las Vegas, NV, and love that this book helps us to see more clearly how we need not rely on ourselves, but truly TRUST the BIG, AMAZING God who created us! I love that each of us can take a different part of the book and relate to it personally, and as we discuss it together we are all growing and learning. Thanks for all you are doing for us “good girls” out here!!
Hi all, I’m OneGirl and I’m from Florida. I’m 19 and started reading this book for the first time in college last year (in between studying and writing papers :]) and then my sorority began a study group on this book, so I’ve read some parts multiple times….and still it impacts and challenges me in new ways. I’m definitely a recovering good-girl, and I can’t wait to dig in with all of you and hear your Stories.
OneGirl´s last [type] ..I Need To Know
Hello!
I’m Cara from Spokane, WA and I found Grace for the Good Girl at the library where I work. I was ten pages in when I started crying, and I purchased it shortly after I finished. I’m very excited to talk about what it means to me personally, and to relate to the ways it speaks to others. Looking forward to getting to know you all through comments and interactions!
Cara´s last [type] ..Shaky Starts
Hello! I’m Mary Beth. I’m reading from Mississippi.
I suppose I’m reading because the “good girl” is what I’ve been called all my life. It’s now who I believe myself to be, which results in a lot of endless trying to please others. Maybe I’m reading to get some freedom. I know the Lord is the only one who can give me that, but I really think He’s about to use this book to do something special.
This is my first book club. Ever. I’m a lone reader. So we shall see.
Mary Beth
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Hello Girls. My name is Christy and I will be reading from Talking Rock, Georgia (via St. Augustine FL one week while on vacation!)
I bought this book a few months ago but still did not feel ready to read it. After watching the video and knowing I would be reading along with so many other woman who feel the same way… I am in and I cannot wait to see what He does through this.
Christy´s last [type] ..Random Friday Musings.
Hi!
My sister and I are going to read your book and do the study with you! We are SO excited.
We are French Canadian, from the Province of Quebec!
And I hope to find freedom to be the girl God wants me to be.
Rachel
and Mireille
I’m reading from near Stratford, Ontario, Canada! Can’t wait to get into your book with some of my friends! Thanks for doing this online book study wiht us, Emily!
I’m Angel… from Louisiana.
I’m hoping to gain insight to the reasons why I am the way I am. As women, we all face… and have faced, ridicule and have been criticized in some point in our lives… even if only by ourselves.
I’m ready to face this on… raw, open and real.
Thank you so much for this!
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Hi, I am Kim from Charlotte, NC.
A friend of mine gave me an advance copy (I think) of the book this time last year. I was intrigued by the title so I started reading as soon as I got home. A few pages in I got angry and said, “I don’t have time for this.” I knew what it was going to do to me. So I closed the book and put it at the bottom of a large pile of other books.
At the end of last year I heard the gentle voice of the Father whispering to me, encouraging me to pick “Grace for the Good Girl” back up. I cried through the entire thing. It completely unraveled the good girl life I had carefully knit together to hide my true self. I’ve been wanting to re-read it to help me continue to process what the Lord has been speaking to me and to help me articulate it to others.
I am so looking forward to journeying together with you ladies through this powerful book.
Thank you Emily for being so brave as to go first and record what God has done for you!
Kim
Hi, Emily! I am so very excited about this book discussion! As you know, God has used this book (and continues to use it) to GREATLY impact my life for the good. I am so, so excited about discussing it with other “good girls.” I just have to share a funny “recovering good girl” story from earlier this week to show you how my family acknowledges the impact of this book on me: my husband and I were attending a little locally sponsored circus with most of our kids and our three young grandkids and the large speakers were pointing directly at us making it uncomfortably loud–so I stepped out and turned the speakers slightly away from us. My oldest (also recovering good girl) daughter said, “Nope, you’re not a good girl anymore!” (Obviously, that’s just a light-hearted tip-of-the-iceberg acknowledgment of how often we reference your book!)
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Hello, I’m Sarah from Lincoln, Nebraska…though I’ll have the privilege of reading the second section up in British Columbia while we vacation there with a little bit of business mixed in!
I have never done a book club online, but this is a book I’m happy to go more slowly with, read the comments of others and soak it up and just enjoy the experience while learning at the same time.
I bought the book back when there was a special on your blog, and I’m excited to start.
Sarah M
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My name is Jodi and I will be reading in Copenhagen Denmark. I have ordered the book and waiting for it to arrive. Can’t wait. Thanks Emily.
Hi. Tulsa, Oklahoma is in the house! I will be joining everyone and re-reading your book, Emily. I am looking forward too it.
Reese´s last [type] ..all is well
I’ve actually already read the book through, am from Illinois and really enjoyed it. May just pick it up again and read through to discuss. I didn’t grow up a good girl as in, I was not a people pleaser as a teenager, but I’m finding as I get older and have become a wife and mom, I can resonate so much more on this topic. I’m completely passionate about His grace in my life, amazed by its changing me and excited about the future work of it in my life…
Hi, My name is Kate and I live in San Antonio, TX. I was first pointed to this website by my cousin because I am 28 days away from marrying a Youth Pastor. She thought it would appeal to me and it sure has. After starting the read the blog I bought the book on my iPad and have been reading it since then. I guess I joined at the right time because you’re just starting the book club. I am only about 5 chapters in and I stopped reading waiting for this little group to start. Excited to have some fellowship!
Kate´s last [type] ..Looking ahead
I’m Erin from Milwaukee, Wisconsin. Looking forward to a great summer-long discussion!
Hi, my name is Rebekah and I am from the Chicago area.
When I began reading this book, I was so excited to see that other people have struggled with the same concepts.
Even though I wasn’t really “good”, I always thought I could attain “good girl” status by trying harder. I just really didn’t get the concept of grace in my daily living. It is still something that is a daily challenge, and I look forward to learning and growing with everyone else here.
I’m Emily and I’ll be joining you all from Wisconsin! SO looking forward to hearing your stories and sharing my own
I started this book a week ago before I realized this study would be happening and I’m thrilled that I’ll have someone to discuss it with now!
Emily´s last [type] ..The Good, the Honest, and the Messy
Hi girls! (waving wildly)
I am Sharon and I hail from Missouri. I found this blog from another blog (don’t remember which one) and as I read I kept thinking, “This girl KNOWS me!” LOL! Then I thought, “I’ve gotta get that book”, and it sounded so familiar…so I checked my ‘Need to Read’ shelf of my bookcase (yes, I’m a bibliophile…and I don’t care to recover, lol!)…and there sat the book! Well, I sat down and devoured it in a couple of days. Now I want to read it through again, slower, and with other people to discuss with. So here I am. 
The Lord has really been dealing with me the last few years about my people-pleasing, fear-driven, way of living…so I’m primed so-to-speak. Looking forward to all the comments…and I will myself to make comments too, without worrying about how I will be perceived. For freedom ladies!
Hi:) I’m Katie from a small town in central PA. I just finished the book but I really need to reread it slowly and with a group to process it all. I think I’m so much of a good girl that it’s hard to fully see it. It’s just who I am and have always been. But I so long for freedom from the weight of responsibility for everything. I’m praying for the faith to believe that God could really change me. I have no idea what that would look like. Would anybody even recognize me? Emily, I feel like so much of what you’ve shared could have been written by me. It’s so sweet to feel understood. I long for a soul friend like you:) We’ve been here for just a few years and don’t feel like we fit in too well at our church. Thanks for stepping out in faith to do this book club. I’m still new to online communities and tend not to “talk” much, though I share a lot in person. I’m hoping to become a better participant:)
Hello, my name is Libbee and I am reading from Gold Coast Australia!
I never could quite figure out why I was the way I was until my Mum came accords your blog and book, and shared it with me. I have received so much revelation from reading your book. I am keen to join in with ladies from across the globe to share together. Knowing that we’re not alone in this. What a great book Emily!
Libbee
I am in England and I always want to experience more of what it means to live in grace in real life.
The book looks good and I could/can get it for my Nook. I would love to be a part of the study but I don’t/can’t have a FB page. Will be praying that the blessings will flow.
My name is Jeanie and I live in Kansas. I loved your book and would like to have the opportunity to hear your thoughts while discussing the chapters. I am married to my husband of 28 years and have two children.
I’m Brooke and am joining you from Monroe, Oregon. I’m an “older” good girl, being a grandma and all, but I read the book when it first came out and loved it. I’m ready to go thru it again and dig deeper. Thanks for putting this together, Emily.
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Hi, I’m Lauren, from Kentucky, and I’m really excited about reading this book with you all! I’ve had it on my Kindle for a couple of months, and really enjoy the blog. Thanks, Emily, for stepping out of your comfort zone!
Lauren´s last [type] ..Remembering…
I am from Murfreesboro, TN, and am looking forward to reading your book.
I’m in Albuquerque, NM and bought the kindle version a few months ago. I began reading, but then stopped. Last week, I watched the trailers for the book & just knew that this book club was for me.
mandie´s last [type] ..Dreams vs. Real
I’m Suzanne, and I’m joining from Ohio. I read this last year, and I wanted so badly to be able to read it with someone, so I’m eager to pick it up again along with all of you!
Suzanne´s last [type] ..mountaintop
I’m a Kansas City girl transplanted to Arlington, Texas! Ordered your book, started it, put it up…and life got in the way. This is just the push I needed to get it back down and start all over. Looking forward to it!
I’m born and raised in Hawaii. I’m excited to dispel my overworked “good girl”. I related to every single woman in the videos. Where did it all come from, right?!
Jeri Taira´s last [type] ..{Lingering} Getaway
I’m born and raised in Hawaii. I related to every single woman in the videos. Where did it all come from, right?! “I feel guilty for feeling guilty”. I said to my hubby twice this week.
My name is, Jeri and I’m a good girl who’s ready to let go of that try hard life and find grace to finally rest.
Jeri Taira´s last [type] ..{Lingering} Getaway
Hi, I’m Wanda in Maryland; I want to learn how to accept and walk in the amazing grace God has extended to me all my life. I want to accept and believe that there is not one more thing I need to do for Him to delight in me more than He already does!
Hi, I’m Leanne from San Diego, CA, but an Aussie born and bred. I read the book once, passed it off to a friend who hasn’t given it back, so went and bought my own copy, plus three more for the gals who were graduating from “Education for Ministry” this year. Just in case, you know, they missed all the reading. (I graduated from that program — run by an Episcopal seminary for lay people — last year)
Am hoping that maybe a few friends will be able to join me here…
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Hi there, I’m Jasper in Durham, NC and I am totally excited to read through will all of you ladies. Currently I am leading a small group of teenage girls through GFTGG {have I just created a new so-you-think-you-can-dance-alike-acronym?
} and I love the chats with them so I know this will be awesome, too! Thanks for letting me join!
Jasper´s last [type] ..wanderlust
Hilarious. I have a whole file filled with email in my inbox labeled “GFTGG” And it took me at least three years before I could type SYTYCD without having to say all the words as I typed it! Funny. glad you’re joining us, Jasper.
Thx for writing what I’ve felt but couldn’t articulate on my own. I’m a wife & mom from auburn GA and I’m a recovering good girl!!
I’m in Ladera Ranch, CA. Your book finally helped me understand myself. Looking forward to this study!
I am from Virginia.I have read the book and it could have been my life story.Looking forward to hearing others’ thoughts on the book! Thanks,Emily, for writing this book.
You know I adore you already and have had the book for awhile but haven’t read it yet. the good girl in me is afraid to!! Glad I get to go through it with you, sweet friend. {Oh yes, and I live in Falling Waters, WV for the record
}
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hi emily, i’ve finished half of your book but would love to join your discussions this summer too. BTW since you asked, I’m from California
sweet laroya´s last [type] ..Satur-date
Emily…I am so excited that you are doiing this. One question….I don’t belong to Facebook. Will you be posting updates thru your blog?
Absolutely, Sally. All the content will be on the blog and I’m thinking lots of discussion in the comments as well, as best we can anyway. The Facebook group is a bonus for anyone who may have wanted to relate a bit more in depth without it being so public. But yes, you can follow along on the blog for sure.
Hi, I’m Becky, and I’ll be joining you all from northeast Wisconsin. I first heard of the book when Emily spoke at the She Speaks conference last summer. I read it in September and I’m looking forward to reading it again, gaining more insights from other good girls, and especially for reviewing the wonderful scripture messages that you wove so beautifully, Emily. These are all verses I’ve read before, maybe even memorized before, but when put together in the context of this book, they finally made sense at a new level. See you all here and on Facebook in the coming weeks!
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I live in Augusta, Georgia. I’ve read the book once and had wanted to go through it again anyway. I know I will learn a lot by reading with others. I hope to just understand myself better.
I’m joining from Charlotte, NC and just looking forward to the discussion here!
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Hi! My name is Ali and I am reading from Corpus Christi, Texas! I am a good girl who has had episodes of bad girl tendencies. I have been so ministered to by the honesty and transparency you share in your blog and am looking forward to leaving behind the “try hard” to embrace the abundant life living in God’s grace brings!
Hi.
I am Kimberly. I am joining in from Inman, SC.
I loved the video. Had me all teary. Because I get it. I get everything they are saying. Looking forward to reading your book again. Looking forward to getting to be honest with other good girls. And looking forward to letting the Lord do some work in this heart of mine. I want to lay down at night and not always feel so disappointed in me, like I could have done so much more.
Thanks for doing this, Emily.
Hey ladies!
My name is Caitlin and I’m living in Central Texas.
I read “Grace for the Good Girl” after going to the Relevant blogger’s conference in October of 2011. I sat in the airport, engrossed in the book, with silent tears streaming down my soul. Finally, someone who got me and the struggles that I’ve faced! I used to feel like a goody-goody when I talked about some of my struggles but now I realize that they are just as raw and important to God as anyone else’s more “exciting” struggles.
This will be my second time through the book and I’m excited to join in with my sisters from all over the world.
Y’all, I think it’s going to be a blast.
I will be reading in Minnesota! I am really looking forward to this study. I have a small group of ladies that meets once a month, and we’re starting Ann Voskamps 1000 gifts, so to be reading that side by side with this group of online women is really exciting. I am expecting God to do big things…
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I will be reading from Winnipeg, Canada. I got my copy of the book last week and have begun reading, but had to put it down because I almost started crying on the bus on my way to work the other morning. It’s freaking me out how you got inside my head, Emily, but I am really looking forward to the weeks ahead…
Emily,
I will be joining you from Nampa, Idaho. I read your book once and I was stunned to learn you somehow had been inside my own head and heart for most of my life. I had no idea anyone else felt and could articulate so well what was going on in there. I want to read it again and look forward to discussion here. Thanks for doing this…and for writing the book.
Hi, I’m KR and I’m a good girl. I’m reading from Raleigh, NC (if I holler loud enough you might hear me). I saw this video and asked for (and received) the book for Christmas. I’m not a great reader (very short attention span) so I haven’t gotten too far into it. I cried at the video, I cried in the 1st chapter. I know this is “me” and will be a huge blessing and help for me–I just need to actually read it! This is the push I needed! This is the first summer in many years that I’m not doing a summer bible study with the girls and surely this will fill that spot for me and I can’t wait. I do not do facebook, though. Looking forward to this, and hopefully to meeting you one day. You got me hooked on AnnieBlogs, and I actually got to meet June at an NC bloggers’ dinner a few years ago–so I kind of feel like I know you, too! Thanks again, and yay!
I am reading from Roma, Australia and I’m very excited about joining the bookclub… I have read the first 17 pages and I am having a physical reaction, to read these words that so accurately describe how I feel is extraordinary. Although I am a little scared some of my long held beliefs may be challenged.. I am looking forward to the journey. Thank you Emily for being brave and giving so generously of your time to host this bookclub.
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Hi, I am from Cheney, Washington, and this is such perfect timing! Thank you so much for this Emily! 8)
hi! i’m amber. living in ontario canada {but from cincinnati ohio}!
what i hope to gain from this study is – simply to find some refreshing water of encouragement to help wash down the “dry toast feel” my spiritual life has had the past several months. i have a feeling learning to let go of the try hard life has alot to do with it~
amber@gracetobe´s last [type] ..Monday, May 28, 2012
Hello! I am Melissa and I am reading in Tennessee. This book collided with another book I am currently reading and a strong word from God to my heart all within one week! It is not easy to be hit with a 2×4 smack in the middle of your heart~ but I am grateful that my amazing Heavenly Father loves me too much to leave me. I am grateful that He desires to see me align all my thinking and all my living with His way.
I have felt lost for the past year in a life I feel unfamiliar with and a heart that does not seem like it is my own. Reading this book has begun to clear the haze and illumine a new path. Starting a new way of living amidst my regular life is hard, but I know that it will be more than worth it in the end! I am also excited to have other women alongside me.
Emily, thank you for having the courage to write this book and expose the truth about this struggle. I am not sure I ever saw it as a struggle, but am grateful to how God is opening my eyes and my heart to this change.
Hello I am Maddalena from Genova Italy.
I am readyng your book and I am here to finally find myself and my true soul. . . my way with God.
I am so happy to have a place to discuss my faith andthe wrong myths.
Cheers
Maddalena
Hi! I grew up in Dallas, TX, and currently live in Iraq working for our nonprofit organization. I heard about this book from a Simple Mom podcast, and didn’t consider reading it until I saw some of Emily’s book interviews, and as she shared, I realized she was talking directly to me – I was kind of embarrassed wondering how in the world she knew me so well! That’s when I knew I had to read the book. Thankful for Kindles – got to buy and start reading right away. Wow, it has been such a refining time for me, and I’m looking forward to joining this community of readers this summer to share together the various ways we’re all being transformed by finally resting in His infinite grace. Thanks, Emily, for stepping out in faith to share so intimately with the world; it continues to bless many!
I’m excited about this book! I used to get taunted with “goody two shoes” types of remarks in middle school. I was. Partially because I was too scared to be bad… I wish I could say it was because I was motivated by my deep love for Jesus. But, in my experience being a good girl isn’t always about Jesus, unfortunately. Praise God for grace. I’m reading from Northeast Ohio in a little town called Kent (Kent State University). I’ll probably blog about it as I go. Thanks Emily.
hi.I like your friendship for share anything. Do you like this?
Meg, Chattanooga, TN.
I started reading the book for a second time a few weeks ago. The first time, I instantly identified with the good girl. I think I did that in the first few pages. It didn’t take long, and I already knew it. But, I didn’t really connect with the being found and living freely portion of the book. I needed those sections to be way longer and more in debt for my soul. That’s a lot of pressure for a book, which is kinda crazy. I’m reading it again to help me find my story. What is it going to take for me to be found and to let go and to let grace take over? I don’t want the book to be a manual for how I should live freely. This is where I focus more on the Holy Spirit and less on the book.
Excited for this adventure!
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I’m Amanda and I’m reading in Indiana.
I got the book and read it through tears in the fall. I’m glad to have the chance to go through it again with other women who really get it. When I would talk to my husband about what I was reading, he would try to listen sympathetically, but he kind of looked at me like I had three heads, so he was no help in the end. Poor guy.
I’m actually a little nervous because I’m one of those blog readers who reads faithfully, but never comments. I didn’t even comment on the post you made about lurkers Emily.
When I read the book the first time, the whole first part describing the masks was like you were spying on me. Unfortunately, I had / am still having a hard time really internalizing and living out the part after the description of the masks. Hopefully by discussing / watching others discuss the book, I will have some breakthroughs and be able to understand God’s grace for me.
Thank you Emily for doing this book club.
Hi there! I’m Kimberly and I’m an American living in Switzerland. I loved the book when I first read it, and can’t wait to go through it once more. I’ll be traveling a lot this summer, so I will have to show myself some grace when it comes to participating in the discussions:) Looking forward to hearing what each of you has to say.
Kimberly´s last [type] ..A Love List
Hi! My name is Chrissy and I live in the suburbs of Winston Salem, North Carolina. I have already read Grace For the Good Girl, but I am so excited to participate in the book club and go through the book again.
I have been a “good girl” as long as I can remember and when I read this book, I could only say thank you Lord, for revealing this book to me and letting me know that there are other good girls like me and I’m not alone in this struggle!
Hi, my name is Barbara and I will be reading from Texas (in June) and Colorado (in July). I have had the book for several months…sort of “saving it” for a reward for myself, I think. But now I am sure that it was divine intervention, as I will be so richly blessed to share this bookclub with all you wonderful “girls”! I will begin reading today!!!
i’m Aly, from san diego, born & raised and never left
i started reading grace for the good girl when it first came out, but i have a tendency not to finish books no matter how great they are! excited to start over, and have some accountability to finish this time!
Aly Allen´s last [type] ..a sunshine-y rainbow-y 3rd birthday
Hi there… I’m Jenny and I’ll be reading from Virginia. I’m so looking forward to savoring this book and have a hunch I will most likely find my own story on it’s pages. I have been the good girl and know that role well. Years ago, God lovingly began to unravel and free me from those chains… from having to have it all together, of pleasing everyone and trying hard to redeem myself when he has already redeemed me. It’s been a painful and grueling process but liberating and life-changing just the same and I want more! I can’t wait to read your book, Emily. Thank you for being vulnerable and offering your heart through it.
Jenny Barker´s last [type] ..Once Upon a Time: a story about grace
Hi, I’m Tonya, and I am reading from Nashville, Tennessee.
Grace For The Good Girl has been on my reading list since I first heard about it. The description really spoke to me, and I remember as a youth in church that I feot that I didn’t have a story. I was never “saved” from a life full of bad things. I greew up in a Christian home and never really got into trouble. I’m re-discovering myself lately and finding that I still lack a relationship with God despite being a good girl.
If anyone in the Nashville area would like to get together some time and build community, please contact me! Id love to discuss this book with my local people, too!
Tonya´s last [type] ..Quotes this week
Greetings, ladies! I’m Jenna, and I’ll be reading from the Sacramento area, CA. I discovered Emily’s blog through several other blogs I frequently read (primarily Edie @ life{in}grace), and I bought & read “Grace for the Good Girl” earlier this year. I was absolutely blessed and challenged by Emily’s wonderful words, and I am truly looking forward to reading through the book again and sharing with you all!
Jenna´s last [type] ..[Archives] On the Bookshelf: The “Uglies” Trilogy by Scott Westerfeld
Hello to all you good girls out there! My name is Melissa and I’m in Hattiesburg, Mississippi. I accidentally (yeah, I know, there are no accidents with God, smile) stumbled onto this book club reading and have book downloaded on my kindle, I just haven’t taken the time to read it. Now I’m being shoved off into the text. I hide 24/7, 365 to be what others want me to be or the make those around me happy….
Melissa´s last [type] ..Cabin reserved…
hi emily!
long time no see! i wanted to watch the video, but didn’t see any CC button. do you have a transcript you can email me so i can “read” more about your book?
thanks
blaire
I’m Holly. Currently living in Alabama. My friend Blaire and I will be doing this together this summer as we encourage each other during our long distance marriages. I’m looking forward to the re-read and I know Blaire will love it!
Holly B @ Found on a Friday´s last [type] ..Narnia and My Niece
My name is April, and I’m a good girl who lives in Louisiana. In reading this book, I hope to learn how to let go of the performance-based mindset that I’ve lived with for most of my life. I also hope to thwart one of my side-effects of good-girlism – giving up and not trying if I don’t think I can do something or do it well. (Because I can’t fail if I don’t try. And it won’t matter if I don’t care.) Thanks, Emily for writing a book to help us good girls live freely in God’s grace!
April´s last [type] ..The Dirt on SSMTC
So excited about this book!!! I actually had planned on starting this book this week with a group of college girls and then checked out the blog and am even more EXCITED to see that we are basically on the same schedule! Thanks for doing this!!!
I am following from Australia too and plan to order your book on line this weekend. I am looking forward to joining in and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your thoughts and learning experiences with us. God bless x
Karen´s last [type] ..A month of portrait painting progress…
Hi, I’m Jacquie, a 30-year-old SAHM with 3 kids 4 and under who is totally a good girl! I live in the centre of North America in the city of Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. I read the book a few months ago and it brought to light so many things about myself that I had known, but didn’t know how to put into words. It really helped me (and my husband) to understand how I think and to see the thought patterns that need to be renewed and transformed. I’m looking forward to going through the book again because it’ll take a lot for this good girl to let go and find my true identity in who God says I am instead of trying to find it in how I perform. Thanks Emily!
Jacquie´s last [type] ..Happy 3 Months Eden
Even though I promised myself I wasn’t going to commit to one more thing this summer… I just can’t pass this up. I read 3/4 of the book after coming home from Relevant ’11 and being lucky enough to sit with oh-so-gracious you in a writing critique group. I stopped because, like others, it stirred up so much for me that I had to just camp there for awhile, examine how my whole life may have been based on either trying to be a good girl, or desperately rebelling from doing so. I think as an adult, I’ve been caught bouncing between the two. Now I’m compiling a multi-author book on honest self-expression and healing in the Christian community and in the process, realizing just how much my presuppositions relating “Christian” with “good enough” hindered my healing on so many levels growing up. Thanks, deeply, for what you have done through this book. Can’t wait to go through it again in such fabulous community. Oh, and I’m reading from southern Oregon. (And sorry for the book-length comment!)
Cara @ WhimsySmitten´s last [type] ..Over and Over…Still. {Part 2: On Depression and Anxiety}
Hi Emily! I’m Jacque from Corona, CA and I’m looking forward to reading your words. When I first found your book at Relevant last year I was grateful for it, but somehow, because of choices I’ve made, figured I was disqualified from your “good girl” title. However, as I’ve opened your book and read some of your poignant words, I realize it was because I WAS a “good girl” for so long striving to perform in my try-hard life, seeking a performance-based love, that I made choices in the opposite direction, and the journey of healing and forgiving my own heart has been long. I was wrong that the term “good girl” hadn’t applied to me, and I can’t wait to read all your words and then meet you at She Speaks! Many blessings to you for so boldly sharing your heart! May we all be so brave…
Jacque @ Mercy Found Me´s last [type] ..I Will Choose to Trust and Believe … Even if I Cannot See
Hi Emily.
I’ve been hoping to read your book for months now, but life, including my sweet, active toddler and learning how to walk the post-traumatic illness road, has kept me from doing so. I’ve needed a little push to get going. Plus, I love hearing what others are learning from books I’m reading, and being relatively new to Northern Virginia, I haven’t found a group of women to read and discuss with yet. Thank you so much for doing this!
Allison @ Be Not Afraid´s last [type] ..Savor the Moment: All Things Made New
Wish I could, but alas I can’t. It’s on the list to read.
Nikole Hahn´s last [type] ..Short Story: Swine and Snow
I’m from New Brunswick, Canada! I bought your book last Christmas as my annual “Christmas book” to read, and I haven’t found time to read it yet. This study is the perfect opportunity to have accountability in reading it and working through the concepts with others (and the author!). I am a good girl – the oldest, a perfectionist and trying to work through all of this as a stay at home mom to two little girls. Looking forward to the study!
Pamela´s last [type] ..Menu Plan March 19 – 23
Well, I’m a little late to the party, but I will be joining also!! I started GFTGG and got about halfway through…wishing as I read it that I could talk it over with someone!!
) Thanks for doing this! I look forward to the coming ‘conversations’!! (And I’m joining from Olathe, KS)
Hello all! My name is Ashley, and I am reading from Fort Worth, Texas. My book arrived in the mail the other day, and I’ve read the first two chapters – SO very relevant and on target for me! I think this book will allow for even more healing that God has been revealing and uncovering in me. Thank you, Emily, for this really unique opportunity to read/share together =)
Hi! I’m Jeana and I’m reading from Athens, Ga and I’m a new follower of Chatting at the Sky. I didn’t realize the website and the Grace for the Good Girl book were written by the same person until NOW.
I started reading the first chapter online and I was already stifling my tears in the introduction. This book is very fitting for the season of life I’m in now. I have a 5 year old, a 2 year old and a 1 year old and I’ve been married for 9 years. I’m also a perfectionist. sigh. It’s robbing me of my joy. It’s time to take off the masks.
Hi. I’m Brynn and I’m reading from Fayetteville, Ga. I’ve struggled with confusing strong with safe, perfect with loved, weak with defective, and broken with needy. I’m a huge what-iffer. When I first heard about Grace for the Good Girl I couldn’t connect with the “Good Girl”. But that subtitle? I’ve been trying hard, and seemingly failing at it, as long as I can remember. I started the book in January of this year. My bookmark has been in the middle of chapter 4 since February. I got stalled out by just too much me in my face. Whew! I took a breather to process some things I’d never realized…and once realized, didn’t really want to admit. I’ve got 53 years of good girl history that’s slowly unraveling. I’m hoping to hear your stories, share mine, and be OK with the whole scary mess!
Now to join the Facebook group! Thanks, Emily!
Hi everyone ~ Patricia reading from Burlington, ON and from Meaford, ON Canada…I’m in the middle of moving myself to our retirement home end of this month…got a work transfer close to the new home, but hubby is not leaving until Dec to join me there…I’m super excited to start the next chapter in my life and to develop a community of friends in the new area. Bought “Grace for the Good Girl” a few months ago and started it then got involved with packing and organizing getting the house ready for sale…Want to read through and join in conversations with others..
Hello everyone!
My name is Lindsey, and I’m posting from Orlando, FL.
The girls in my connect just read Grace for the Good Girl together. It’s changing my life slowly but surely, and I know there is more to glean from it. I’m so excited to read more of what Emily has to say about each chapter, and hopefully it will help me continue letting go of the try-hard life. It’s a daily thing, ya know?
Thanks for doing this, Emily. You are a blessing!!
Hi! My name is Darcy. I got the book awhile ago when I won it on someone’s blog giveaway…Now that it is summer I was planning on reading it. It will be nice to do it in this format.
I am reading in Oregon (mostly in Albany, but hopefully also reading at the beach too:)
Darcy´s last [type] ..Consequences
Hello my fellow sisters! I am a recovering good girl from Hamilton, ON, Canada and I am so looking forward to the coming weeks with you all! Thank you Emily!
Hi! I’m Jaclyn and I live in Naperville, IL and I go to school at Florida State. I cannot wait to hear everyone’s stories and to go through the book. Thanks Emily for this opportunity!
Good morning! I’m in Jamestown, NC and have already read the book (LOVED it!)… participating in this club to cement the truth in my heart and mind so it becomes my new “default” way of thinking
My name is Missy, and I’m in Baton Rouge, LA. I haven’t gotten the book yet, but plan to grab it today to join on Thursday. I’ve been wanting to get the book for several months now. I keep saying that it will be next after I finish the stack of unread books waiting for me already. However, I started crying about 30 seconds into that video and didn’t stop for about 10 minutes after it was over… so your book just jumped to the top of my must-read-now list. Looking forward to joining the community of good girls.
I’ve read it twice. Led a discussion on my own blog. Told everyone I know to read it. I just can’t help loving this book. And Emily. Of course there is sweet Emily.
I’ll be here too, cause Good Girls need each other. Kind of like I need M&M’s and coffee.
from sunny Orlando,
Stacey
Stacey´s last [type] ..The Joy Dare
I’m Kayse and I’m joining in from California! I’ve read Grace for the Good Girl once already, and I know I need to read it again. I’m so excited to go through it together!
Kayse @ Finding Hope´s last [type] ..Meal Planning Monday
I purchased my book awhile ago and read through part of it and got sidetracked with life! So I am really looking forward to being a part of the study! I am a New York girl who is currently living in Virginia!
Hello! My name is Laura and I’m reading from just outside Chicago, IL. I heard about this book on Tracie’s blog and knew I had to purchase a copy. (I am actually going through a minimalism phrase and gave away most of my books/refuse to buy more, so the fact that I bought this book is a rarity!) I’ve had the book for about a month, waiting for the perfect time to start. Now seems to be that time! I am kind of new in my faith so I am hoping this book will help me understand myself and God better.
Laura N.´s last [type] ..walk in the light.
Hi My name is Paula and I’m joining in from Fort Worth, TX! I have two daughters 15 and 13 and an 8 year old son. A friend that follows your blog told me about you and about the Grace book for teens. I immediately put that book on my amazon list for it’s fall release and then started following your blog. I enjoy you so much. I am also following your dad’s blog. He’s awesome too.
These days, I have trouble finishing books so I’m doing it this way mostly for accountability LOL! I also have a friend from Louisiana that will be reading with us as well. YAY! Also, I feel it will help me to be prepared when the teen book comes out and my girls are reading it.
Thanks for being brave and taking a leap of faith with this!
I’m Laura from Evans, Ga, and I’ll be joining you. I’m a church musician and mom to a 9-year-old daughter. Been working for the last several years to sort out good girl vs. grace, so I’ve been intrigued by the title but haven’t yet read it. I’ve just downloaded it to my Nook and am looking forward to the discussion!
Hi,
My name is Lisa. I have read through the book once and look forward to the book study. I found Emily’s site back in the fall of 2011 when I was going through a very difficult transition. Her writing really spoke to my broken heart. Thanks for doing this.
LLMom´s last [type] ..Branching out (cross post)
I’m reading from Charlotte, NC. Looking forward to learning more for everyone.
Hi, after reading this amazing piece of writing i am too glad to share my know-how here with mates.
reverse mortgage´s last [type] ..reverse mortgage
Hello everyone.. I’m from Sault ste.marie, ontario, canada.. i love your book.. and will enjoy reading it again.. thank you
Hello Everyone:) I am writing from Indianapolis, IN. I am so thankful to have stumbled upon this adventure you are embarking on this summer. I have read the book and I loved it!! I am excited to join you ladies in discussing this deep-rooted issue…one that is hard to explain, let alone discuss with someone else! I am excited to talk with other ladies that will understand and be encouraged (and hopefully encourage) in Christ! What a blessing. Thank you and have a blessed day!
Reading the book from Minneapolis, MN with my small group from church. We are looking forward to the day when the masks come off!